You know that feeling when someone pushes your button and “makes” you do something that you later regret? Then you have to spend time cleaning up the mistake in some form or the other? Or what about the time when you saved yourself a headache or future troubles by ignoring or moving away from a provoking person or situation?
I wonder if you noticed the use of the words “save and spend” as well as the work “make”.
Because, if your money isnt feeling the way you want it to and you just can’t put your finger on the reason why (other than your paycheque or lack thereof), it could be that you are “spending” your life on things that are a waste of time rather than “saving” your energy for things more worth while.
And what about this whole concept of someone “making” you do something. Well that is also related to how you save or spend your life.
According to the principles of neurolinguistic programming (NLP), you are either living in cause or effect.
Cause to your power
Life coach Roger Ellerton writes, “Being at cause means that you are decisive in creating what you want in life and take responsibility for what you have achieved or will achieve. You see the world as a place of opportunity and you move toward achieving what you desire. If things are not unfolding as you would like, you take action and explore other possibilities. Above all, you know you have choice in what you do and how you react to people and events.”
Because you are the cause of your life being the way it is, no one can “make” you do or experience anything. Even the worst situations you can think of can become lessons rather than stones in your heart. Lessons in forgiveness or love, at the very least, and lessons in how to reclaim your power, at the most. This relates to money as well as interpersonal relationships. It’s not easy, far from easy, it is doable with help.
Effect of being a victim
However, let us say you hold on to the idea that a person who presses your button is the reason you act the way you do, they “make” you act out. Then in NLP we would say that you are in effect. Ellerton explains, “Those who live their lives at effect often see themselves or live their lives as victims with no choices whatsoever. The irony is that they do have choice and they have chosen not to choose but to be responsive to whatever is given to them.” Life coach John Seymour adds, “As a victim, your beliefs are that there is no alternative because the situation is hopeless. Even if there was hope, there is nothing you can do about it because you are helpless and don’t know what to do about it. And as if that wasn’t enough, many people believe they are worthless as human beings, and therefore just have to carry on putting up with the suffering of life.”
So how does your money feel? Like a victor or a victim? What one thing can you do today to improve your financial situation? Could you learn a new financial term? Could you make an appointment to see a licensed financial advisor to get guidance? Could you create a savings plan? Could you work on improving your value? Could you stop hanging out with people going no where? What about hiring a financial coach? How about joining an investment club?
Take contol. Be the cause of making as much money as you are possibly capable of by reaching out and getting the support that you need to get your money feeling how it should.