Ever spend time around people who constantly talk about not having enough money? Have you ever spent time around people who have a plan to get more money? Notice the difference in energy? Notice the outcomes? Even when the persons in the second group fail, they sit down and strategize to create another plan. So failure isnt the end of the world, its just the end of that particular plan. So the question is, who are you hanging out with on a regular basis help your money feel better? Are you repelling money? According to Jessica Gill, Life Coach, most of us are doing five things you to repel money from our lives.
So, take a look at your life. If one or more of the following apply to you, you may subconsciously be repelling money regardless what you say you want.
- You constantly worry about not having enough money. You feel anxious about it almost on a daily basis. You worry about being able to pay your bills or saving for retirement or paying for your kids’ education etc. Now you may think that it is ok to think like this because “everybody” does it. However, you are repelling money because you are worried and angry. You are not focused on new ideas but on lack. We all do it, and it helps to be conscious of it so that you can stop stressing and look for your blessing.
- You put yourself down. Your lack of belief in yourself leads you to undervalue yourself. It sounds something like this. “I’m just not smart enough.” “Why would someone want to work with me?” “I don’t know what I’m doing.” “I’m can be so dumb sometimes.” “What if they don’t like me?” “I don’t have much to offer.” These statements send out vibrations that you really don’t want money, even though you say that you do.
- You ignore money completely. You may have unopened bills. You are unaware of how much real debt you have. You don’t know your current credit card balance, chequing account balance, or your total monthly expenses. You put off dealing with money as much as you can.
- You lie to yourself about your financial situation. You don’t own up to the real situation of being in debt. Instead you “treat yourself” by spending even more money on things you do not need.
- You get rid of it as soon as you get it. Big bills show up. You have sudden urges to go shopping. There is a lot of clutter accumulated in your house, car, or closet from shopping sprees.
It all adds up. The people you hang out with, the thoughts you think about yourself, the actions you take towards money. You are either bring financial wellbeing closer to you or you are chasing it away.
Now, if you see yourself in any of the above, you are actually ahead of the game, because most of us go through many years of self sabotage without being aware. So congratulations. So what to do next?
- Be grateful. Ok, you don’t have as much money as you would like, yet, you do have something. Look around for anything, the first thing you see and be thankful for.
- Pay attention to your thoughts about your money. As you begin to pay attention to money, observe your thoughts and feelings. What does the chatter in your head say? How does your stomach feel as you pay your bills? Write it down and consider if it is real or thoughts that lead nowhere.
- Get help. Talk to a licensed financial advisor or a financial coach and get the help required to make better financial decisions. You don’t have to go it alone.